Feeling anxious about a situation that you’re currently facing? Positive self-talk can be the key to overcoming any worry, stress, or difficult situations that you encounter in life. Read on below for some things that you can tell yourself when dealing with anxiety.
Have you ever been through a time in your life where you’ve felt really low and didn’t know how you were ever going to find the strength to get through that situation? That it just felt like the inner turmoil that you were experiencing was never going to end?
Well I recently went through a time like this in my life during my pregnancy several months ago. I had always thought that pregnancy was supposed to be this really joyful time in your life where you get to wear pretty maternity clothes, feel cute little baby kicks, have glowing skin and thick, voluminous hair. But instead, for me, it was a real struggle. Instead of feeling ecstatic, I actually really struggled with depression and anxiety.
Now don’t get me wrong, I was so grateful that God had blessed me with the opportunity to be pregnant and felt very fortunate to have a baby growing inside of me, but those nine months were definitely a struggle to get through. I was very blessed to have a healthy pregnancy with no physical complications, but it was more so the effect that pregnancy had on my self-esteem that really took a toll on me. And the impact of self-esteem on your overall outlook on life can be HUGE, but unfortunately often underestimated.
To give you a little background, during my pregnancy, my face completely broke out to the point where it seemed like nothing I could put on my face would help the blemishes. In fact, the creams that were prescribed only made it worse! That made me even more anxious. The more I sought help, the more it seemed to spiral out of control. I felt so completely hopeless, and as bad as it sounds, I was feeling so down that I was finding it difficult to even be excited for my baby. Now you might be thinking, boo hoo, you had some zits, get over it. But for me, it was huge and something I really struggled to overcome.
Everyone has something that they’re battling.
Luckily, I had an amazing support system of family and friends who encouraged me day in and day out to get me through this rough chapter in my life. There were things that they said to encourage me that I literally repeated to myself every single day to get through that challenging time.
Here are some of the words of encouragement that I received that helped me and hopefully will help you too if you’re going through a rough patch.
1. This too shall pass
This is one of my favourite sayings because as much as it might seem like your struggle is going to last an eternity, it’s so important to remember that the struggle is temporary, and at some point, things will get better. Just keep reminding yourself that whatever mountain you’re facing — it will NOT last forever.
2. Minimize the problem
When you’re going through a tough time, it can become so easy to only focus on your struggle and obsess over whatever it is that’s bothering you. One analogy that my dad used for encouragement was to think of your life as a pie. In life (or pregnancy), so many things could go wrong. Of all the things that could go wrong, the issue you’re facing is probably only 0.00001% of that pie.
When he said that, I realized it was so true. Although my struggle seemed like a giant mountain to me, it was really only a small bump in the road compared to what I could be dealing with. Rather than focusing on that small sliver in the pie (insert problem here), start to look at the bigger picture (insert blessings here). It can really help to change your perspective on the situation.
3. I WILL get through this
This one was HUGE. Sometimes you just need to draw upon your inner strength and tell yourself that you WILL overcome this issue. For me, it was helpful to reflect on difficult times that I had encountered in the past and remind myself that if I could get through it then, I could get through it now. Although we don’t always realize it, we’re often so much stronger than we think we are.
4. I WILL find a solution
When struggling with a problem, it can be so easy to focus on the problem and not the solution. Although for me, my issue was difficult to treat because I was limited in what I could use during pregnancy that would be safe for the baby, it helped me to focus on the fact that after my pregnancy, eventually I WOULD find a solution (check out some tips for managing pregnancy acne here). As much as you might not feel it at the time, you gotta BELIEVE that with a little problem solving, you will find a solution to your struggle!
5. Focus on the blessings
Finally, and this is a big one – in the midst of a storm, it’s so important to focus on what you’re truly grateful for in life. You might find it helpful to keep a gratitude journal and write down all of the things you’re thankful for. For me, this included a loving family, a supportive husband, wonderful friends, good health, a beautiful house, and a healthy baby on the way, among many other things. When you focus on the blessings in your life, suddenly the problem doesn’t seem so big.
At the end of the day, after praying constantly, repeating the words above day in and day out, and seeking support from family and friends, things did get better. And after holding my beautiful baby in my arms, I realized the struggle was all worth it.
So whatever mountain you’re currently facing, with a little faith, positive self-talk, and encouragement, things will get better for you too — I promise!
Just keep your head up sunshine :)
Have your ever struggled with anxiety or depression? How did you manage it? What are some things you tell yourself to help get those tough times in your life?
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